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Morty Lefkoe
I have never been a bridesmaid or a bride! I have been in an unloving uncaring relationship for many many years and don’t know how to move on or get out of it.
I don’t feel good about myself or do anything write where I feel that was a great job.
I just feel like an existence with a huge empty hole on the inside! and nothing or nobody to turn to .
Hi Louise,
The problems you mention can be eliminated when you eliminate the beleifs underneath them. Have you eliminated the three free beliefs at http://recreateyourlife.com?
That would be a good place to start.
Love, Morty
Morty, why did you not answer Anthony ?
YEP this program works!! I just eliminated a belief.
Marty,
I think you are making a contribution to many.
What would you say to Stronger messages to children that are definitely NOT a misintrepation, e.g., child abuse where you are beaten or sodomized or told straight to your face, “YOU ruined my life! I had to get married at 17 and that ended all the fun of my younger years.”
Or – I have had clients deliberately told they were useless, a pain in the ass, crazy, ugly, etc.
These are more than just misinterpretations…and attributive meaning.
hi Anthony, i have just done this program and it has worked for me a little as i can see now that i am important. but i still see that i am not important to my parents. im 44 years old and they still only want me on thier terms and when they want some thing from me. there have been times of absolute dispare in my adult life and they could see my pain and need for thier love, yet still they walk away. maybe if they had been there for me in my adult years i would have forgot the childhood dispare by now. i want to love my parents but they make it so hard for me to love them.
Hi Anthony,
Being told something does not mean it is true. One interpretation of what you are told is that it is true. Another is that your parents thought it was true but they were wrong. Another is that your parents said it out of their beliefs and anger and they didn’t really mean it. Etc.
Being told something or even being beaten has no inherent meaning, only the meaning you give it.
Love,Morty
Your method is very biblical. Proverbs 23:7 says, “as he thinks in his heart, so is he”. Romans 12:2: “be transformed by the renewing of your mind”
John 8:32 “you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free”
God has thousands of wonderful promises in the Bible that would give us victory if we would just believe them and get rid of all the unbelief.
Your website given in your email shows ONLY #1 your pix #2 a blank screen follow with NO sound
I thought the same thing but you have to click on the arrow to start the video. This needs to be made more obvious
After i regesteted, I chose the belief and click. It gives me a blank screen which “continue” to more blank screens. I’m using an iPad. Maybe it’s not playing on the iPad or iPhone?
I’m having the same issue…
Hi Jenny,
Sorry but our videos are “flash” and Apple products (except MACs) won’t work with flash. We intend to change our videos as soon as we can so iPad will work on our site, but for the moment they can’t.
Please use your computer.
Love, Morty
Hi Morty,
I sat through your free introductory video and while I understand the message about limiting beliefs being in the mind, I just perceive this bit of information as an interesting fact. I feel that the video has little effect on me.
Basically, the attribution of meaning to events which are in itself meaningless, I can agree with. But in my experience, the events itself are not what cause me to validate my beliefs, it is the expression of beliefs by others. I have the belief (here we go again!) that other people are thinking entities, just like me, and have their beliefs shaped by experience in the interaction of the physical world. And other people, of course. Their meaning counts and I take it seriously. And, given enough evidence by way of external opinions that ‘I’m not good enough’, I will tend to believe this. To think otherwise, namely to accept that I am the only creator of meaning for meaningless events, is a solipsistic view of the world which I can not relate to.
On the other hand, I can understand that holding the belief ‘I’m not good enough’ will turn into a self-fulfilling prophesy if one continually searches for validation in interaction. At least I’m aware that this loop is present in my behaviour, I guess that would be a step forward.
And, with respect to being the creator own my own beliefs, and hence my life, my main reaction is ‘Great! So this mess I made of my life is also entirely my fault!’ Which would be just about the opposite of the message you want to get across. I don’t feel more enlightened or elated after viewing the video, just more stupid.
But again, the meta-view of my behaviour would be significant, at least that did get across. Maybe I just need more time than others till this feeling of power over my own beliefs sinks in.
Regards,
Bill.
But Bill because YOU created those beliefs YOU can change them… You should just try it out. There is more in the program that helps you understand and resolve the issues you’re having and if it still doesn’t work for you, you can get a refund
Hi Bill,
I did not say you ar ethe only creator of meaning,. I said you ar ethe only creator of YOUR meaning. You give meaning to whaat happens in the world, regardless of what other intend. And that meaning then runs your life.
Here is a good example of creating meaning: You discover the you create the beliefs that create your life. One meaning is: I’m a screw-up; I ruined my life. Another meaning is: If I created the beliefs that have negatively affected my life, I can remove them and create positive beleifs. If I created my life so far and I don’t like what I created, then I can create a different life. I love being powerful.
Thanks for your interest in our work.
Love,Morty
Hi Morty,
I just came across your site and would like to go through the free process you’re offering but for some reason the video keeps stopping… will that interfere with the process?
Many thanks! /Moria
Hi Moria,
I’m not sure what you mean by the video is stopping. It is in several pieces and you need to click “continue” after each section.
Other than that there may be a problem with your computer as tens of thousands of people view that video and very rarely does someone mention the video stopping.
Let me know if you can get it working.
Love, Morty
Morty,
First I’d like to say thnak you!! I love you!!! Thanks for sharing and putting this out there for all of us to have access to. I’m on Belief #3 at present and working my way through. Eating lunch now and so I’m checking other things out.
Second, I consider myself a bright person although my teenager thinks I’m a computer dork. The way the pages change is a tiny bit confusing. Not the actual changing, clicking continue, but when you get to the next screen is does appear to be blank and is not super obvious that a person needs to click on the video or the arrow to start up the video. That may help. Also, I didn’t have problems with the video stopping at one point today, had to refresh my screen. Not sure what that may have been caused by. I did have problems using some work software via internet yesterday because I have the very lastest version of internet explorer- just came out, a tech guy had to go in an allow something in my computer to work. I tried to send a message through the email support on the site but was having problems reading the code thing and it wouldn’t let me refresh it to one I could understand… any how, alll techie stuff. I’d send my kid over to fix it, ha ha, but we’re not just down the street!
Again, Thank you SOOO much for putting this site up or I may never have found you and would have still been stuck in my old beliefs.
Hello Morty.
I’m a senior, but I had this problem about lack of motivation for doing homework for many years now (Like most of the students, but my problem is more intense).
So what beliefs do you think I have?
Also, what beliefs might cause the same problem (lack of motivaion) for sports?
Hi Danny,
There are too many possibilities to know without talking to you. It could be procrastination, a fear of looking bad (worrying what others think of you), or several other things. Each problem has different beliefs.
We have one-on-one phone and Skype sessions in which we could help you handle both issues easily. For more information you can call us at 415-884-0552.
Love, Morty
Hi Morty,
I love your work and love your blog. I released a limiting belief with this and found it very interesting and extremely helpful. I am planning on buying one of your programs and I was wondering if you have some specific details on what beliefs form jealous behavior. I am guessing they would be covered in your natural confidence or stress reduction but I was wondering if there were specific ones that you could lead me toward? Or is there a good way for me to figure them out? I have worked on the outer surface of this many times but it just keeps coming up for me and I would love to release it for good.
Much love and light…Erin
Hi Erin,
Jealousy is a fear that something of yours will be taken from you. There could be many beliefs causing that problem.
Many of the beliefs are contained in our Natural Confidence DVD package. That might not handle the problem totally, but it should help.
The only way to make sure you identify and eliminate all the beliefs causing the problem is to have private one-on-one phone or Skype sessions with us.
For more information please call us at 415-884-0552.
Love, Morty
Hi Morty,
Well, just ordered Natural Confidence and I am beaming with excitement! I can barely wait to get started! I think I will hit that and then see what seems to be left after that.
Much love for you and your vision in this life…
You are helping so many and I appreciate it more than you know.
Erin
THANK YOU. Even though I’m educated as a NLP Psychotherapist, and has been through a lot of therapy, this helps me out changing radically some limiting beliefs.
hi, i thank you for the sessions they help me calm, and relaxed, i am in the middle of a big change at my job and normally i will stress out, frustrate, lost sleep, angry at anyone and everyone etc but after going thru all the sessions i find myself so relax, complete, whole, so calm and peace. i thank you so much, i still have some voices that caomes in not so strong but still i know they need to be get rid of, i tried your quick method of getting rid of any other fear or voice that might pop up and i feel great already, i am looking forward for the results of these program. i didn’t know why i had to pay for the cd when i already done all the sessions online, they are the same thing, am i suppose to relisten to them sessions every single day, i didn’t think so ut i am confuse now, please let me know, i am so looking forward for what the next thing for me to do to keep up and maintain this wonderful feeling i have, thanks once again, Faye
Hi Faye,
We offer three beliefs for free and you bought a program that has 19 different beliefs and four conditionings. The process for getting rid of each belief is the same, but you have to do the process with each belief to get rid of it.
Let me know if you have an additional questions and let me know how you feel when you complete the program.
Love,Morty
Hey morty.
I have been reading a lot about your work and I really appreciate it. Really, you are my saviour. I eliminated all 3 beliefs on recreateyourlife.com and you helped me save the rest of my life and countless other’s too. Thanks a lot!
PS – What software was used to make the cartoons of the children and parents in the videos on recreateyourlife.com ?
I get that we impose meaning on situations when there is no need for it – the rain is not “good” or “bad” it simply is raining. We have created beliefs in the past which influence us not even consciously but sometimes dictate how we feel. Those beliefs might not necessarily be true. If we attempt to tweak our lives though by coming up with new beliefs (which may or may not necessarily be true) it doesn’t feel to me like a breakthrough. I want to eliminate all beliefs, the filter that we see things through. I agree that I am the creator of my life but would propose that I create my life by my ACTION in every single moment. This is the creation process and with the awareness of being in the driver’s seat in the ever present (no going on auto-pilot) we take control of our lives…
Hi Abarenboushougun,
You can eliminate all the beliefs you want to. We have a package of the 19 most common beliefs that cause eight off the most common daily problems many of us have at http://recreateyourlife.com/naturalconfidence.
And in one-on-one phone sessions you can eliminate as many as you’d like.
For more information please call us at 415-884-0552.
Love, Morty
Thanks so very much for helping me too eliminate my limiting belief of “I am not good enough.” I have struggled to suppress that ugly hurt for so long that it was buried deep in my subconscious. Thanks for giving the opportunity to identify it, seek it and finally destroy. I am born again, I feel a soothing peace not only spiritually and mentally but my body feels relieve as well starting with the top of my head then my stomach and then the entire body. A thousand blessings to you Steve and Lefkoe too, for this incredible practical tool for self development that provides immediate recognizable results. Thanks again!
Hi
I tried to look at your page (video?) but see nothing but empty boxes and continue buttons, I’ve tried in Firefox and IE.
So um I still feel like I’m not good enough!! Bot even good enough to see the videos. Plus now I’m starting to feel like a failure!
Niki
Hi Niki,
Did you ever get it to work. It is working for hundreds of others, so I suggest you try again. The belief-elimination process really does work
Love,Morty
Hey Morty,
I find your method very interesting and I really want to give it a shot. I have two beliefs that I need to get rid of, and both of them come from and unwanted and uncharacteristic skepticism. I have OCD, so my brain likes to think a lot of things I don’t want it to. All of these thoughts are in opposition to my beliefs or something I would like to believe. More specifically, I am trying to make the law of attraction work for me. Now as I’m sure you know, the law of attraction is ALL about belief. What you believe manifests. Now my problem is that I have an unwanted belief that the law of attraction either isn’t real or won’t work for me no matter how hard I try. Now, I don’t AGREE with the belief, but I know it’s there and it’s making things unneccearily difficult for me. The second belief I need to get rid of is just a broader version of the first: nothing will work for me. Now, again, I know that both of these beliefs are untrue, but I’m having trouble TRULY eliminating them, and it’s of GREAT importance that I eliminate both of these beliefs ASAP, as my career and my happiness depends on it. PLEASE help me eliminate these beliefs. Thanks in advance.
-Joe
Hi Joe,
We could easily help you eliminate these two beliefs in a one-to-one phone or Skype session. Call us at 415-884-0552 for more information or to set up an appointment.
However … getting rid of those two beliefs will not get rid of your OCD and are unlikely to make any significant difference in your life Most issues in people’s lives are caused by several beliefs and often conditioning also, and eliminating the two beliefs you are aware of won’t do the trick.
We would be happy giving you want you want, but I want to make you aware that giving you what you want (eliminating two beliefs) probably won’t resolve the issues you want to resolve.
Love, Morty
Morty,
First, thanks for the wonderful program. I don’t believe my fear of making mistakes has changed, but we will see. I do however look forward to trying another one of the belief busters. I did want to mention that I found the concept that the event did not have meaning to be,……… incorrect. True, some events only have meaning if we attach the meaning to it. Others are forms of intentional communication just as surely as opening our mouths and talking. It is important to me to note that it was a miscommunication that helped create the belief.
I hope things go great for you always.
Jeff J
Hi Jeff,
Even if people mean what they say and intend it exactly as they say it, it still has no meaning, in other words, you can’t make any predictions for sure about you, people or life based on what someone says.
Even if someone says Mistakes and failure are bad, that doesn’t mean it;s true. You don’t know anything about mistake and failure based on what your parents said about it.
Thanks for taking the time to comment.
Love, Morty
Firstly i really want to appreciate the work and want to express my gratitude from extreme within me.But what i want to ask is that what type of role does meditation plays in our life,i have been doing breathing meditation for past 2 yrs and i am greatly benefited from in and meditation ultimately teaches to control our mind.So my question is this that even when one can control his mind through meditation then why not meditation is taught to conquer stage fear and other fears and why lefkoe himself never gone into this question or never tried to do any meditation.
Hi Chirag,
I’ve meditated from time to time during my life but I don’t know enough about it to know if it can totally stop one’s stage fear.
I think that although you can clear your mind during meditation, when you aren’t meditating I think the fear is still there. The Lefkoe Method removes the fear totally and permanently.
Thanks for your interest in our work.
Love, Morty
Morty, I want to thank you for this program. I am a college student, and self esteem issues have been holding me back from expressing myself and doing my best in and out of the classroom. I feel much more determined and positive about my future after completing the elimination of the belief that “failure and mistakes are bad.”
Hi Justin,
Glad our work has been helpful.
Thanks for taking the time to post.
Love, Morty
my limiting belief is not cited above. it is that i just cannot be bothered. no i am not a bit depressed. why strive ? why stuff up your good health with stress and overwork? i enjoy people, good food and conversation and many interests..flying aircraft,gardening,reading , bush walking and camping….. i cannot be bothered getting any better than what i am right now.i earn the minimum for the maximum.my kids have grown up,my wife died a few years ago. i plan in advance but live one day at a time to make the most of enjoying what i do that day..i find that there are many people like me. you are today because of what you were yesterday and will be tomorrow because of what you are today…the realistic truth so make use of it. gm.
Hi George,
There is never only one belief that causes a problem.
My experience is different than yours: You are tomorrow what your beliefs are tomorrow, not what they were yesterday. So if you eliminate your limiting beliefs, your future can be very different from your past.
Thanks for taking the time to post.
Love, Morty
All I can say is Thank You.
I have spent years trying to remove the ‘I am not good enough’ belief, through countless methods. Obviously they didn’t work. I still had the belief when I got here.
I don’t anymore. YES!
I can look myself in the mirror and SAY “I am good enough.” That so never could have happened before.
So again I say, Thank You.
Hi Nancy,
You’re welcome.
Love, Morty
Hi Morty,
I watched your free video on how to eliminate 1 belief.
I have some concerns regarding the material you’re presenting – as someone who’s worked as a trainer before – I hope you won’t mind me being plain about my questions.
(1) Life inherently has no meaning. Meaning is what we attribute to it (as a product of conditioning, etc.).
(2) Beliefs and feelings are products of attribution; they have no independent existence of their own
(3) You can be a happier and healthier person if you get rid of all your limiting beliefs.
Unless I’ve misread your intent, these are some of the key ideas that the free-demo of your program revolves around. I have queries on all three points and seek clarification:
(1) Life has no inherent meaning except that which we give it – Surely this undermines every tenet of every major school of spiritual (and religious) teachings. My own views are that there is a meaning to life, but it’s not the one that people in an unconscious state believe it to be. And really, overcoming false belief attribution is one leg of the journey, but nowhere near the end. In the symbolic paradigms of energy medicine, related to concepts of Chakras in the Eastern philosophical-spiritual tradition, knowing that the ego-self is a fiction is but one step, finding who you really are (and you state this in your video but don’t adequately explore it- perhaps you do so elsewhere) and what is your individual, personal sense of truth – is really the journey we take towards greater awareness. What I think you’re talking about is cultivating a ‘detached mind’, where you are able to accept and experience all events without judgements (good/bad, etc.). This relates to the 6th, or brow chakra, also known as the ‘third eye’ of discernment. Yet your program does not discuss how to find your own internal compass, how to seek your own truth. I fear it stops at saying: There is no truth. There is no meaning. And that is not a message I would endorse in my own work.
There are far too many people living off fake ‘spiritual highs’ believing that detachment from right/wrong; good/bad is the way to be. In practice, while these persons may be highly successful in business; quite often they exhibit signs of a lack of empathy. How often have we encountered typical type-A personalities who bash their way through the world uncaring of their effects on others? I’m not saying that the people who benefit from your program lack empathy, I’m just asking how you address this point.
(2) Beliefs and feelings are products of attribution: Again, I would have to disagree. People from different backgrounds, cultures, races, ages, etc. have experienced at some point in their lives a sense of ‘universal truths’, often breaking their own (false-sense) of limiting beliefs. Such life-changing experiences can occur whether or not a person is religious, or performs spiritual practice. To say that all beliefs and feelings are products of the mind limit severely the spiritual senses inherent in all human beings.
Moreover, certain ‘beliefs’ and ‘feelings’, regardless of whether they are internal or externally induced, may actually lead you to (correctly) conclude: that (certain) Mistakes are bad (for example). I’ll use two dramatic examples to make my point. Your demo provides the tools to eradicate any belief or feelings or negativity that arise from them by positing alternative views of a situation. (I should add that you also do not address who the ‘creator’ of these views are and why you would create such views for yourself in the first place – these are addressed again, in the traditions I described above). Say – for instance – someone who has committed a violent act of murder, rape or something less severe like theft or jaywalking seeks to disassociate themselves from the natural feelings of negativity that accompany such actions (in most ‘healthy’ people).
Bear with me – I realize this is hyperbole, but it does make the point: With the tools provided in your demo, a person may well convince themselves that it is okay to commit murder. (Internal dialogue: Mistakes are bad. I shouldn’t feel bad about making this ‘mistake’. Why? Because there are other possible interpretations. E.g. ‘I did them a favour’. ‘It was self-defense (which would be valid to a certain degree in a court of law’). ‘They were weak and did not deserve to live’. ‘They were of a different race/tribe and were not human so it was okay’ Or, take rape – the rapist may well say an alternative interpretation could be: ‘She deserved it’, ‘I thought she meant yes’, ‘She’s my property and I can do whatever I want’. And so on and so forth, an aggressor may well de-legitimize a belief (or instinctive gut reaction) that says violence against another human being is wrong. (Again this is not my view, I’m saying that your demo leaves these ethical and moral questions unexplored and I hope you address them elsewhere).
Essentially my second point of objection is that there are certain universal human truths that transcend mind-based beliefs and move into the realm of instinct, or knowing. One might say that such universal beliefs and spiritual experiences are accessed throught the 7th (Crown) or 4th (Heart) Chakras.
(3) Removing your limiting beliefs makes you healthier and happier.
If life has no meaning, then ‘peace’, ‘happiness’ and even ‘health’ are empty concepts. I’ve argued above why life does appear to have some meaning that transcends the limitations of ego (which really, I think your program can do wonders for, but in conjunction with other steps).
Also as I explored in the examples of violence above, certain beliefs and feelings may be in accordance with an innate sense of morality that would be detrimental for any human being to lose. Certain experiences of beliefs and feelings — in my opinion — transcend the mind and actually signify the presence of a much grander, broader universal existence – they represent Truth. (with a capital T)
So these are my three (ultimately intersecting) critiques of the demo I saw of your program. I would be interested to know whether you address these questions elsewhere. I’m also curious as to know how it overlaps with practices in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
Hi BB,
I don’t address any philosophical questions and I don’t explain anything about my system in the free belief program. That program is a practical process that eliminates beliefs if you want to eliminate the belief.
I have written about most of the issues you raise in my weekly blog at http://mortylefkoe.com. Check it out.
A couple of points:
First, I said events — such as mom and dad yelling at you, someone not talking to you, a tornado, etc. — have no meaning. I never said that life has no meaning.
Also, to say that our beliefs are the meaning we give to meaningless events does not say that there are not any universal truths.
I am not theorizing that eliminating beliefs makes you happier. I’ve been told that by thousands of people who have used our processes to eliminate beliefs. Certain beliefs inevitably make you anxious, angry, and depressed. Eliminating them stops the negative feelings.
The point of alternative interpretations is not to create other (dysfunctional) beliefs, but to get that your initial belief and all the alternative interpretations are all in your mind, and that none of them are The truth. So you can’t use an alternative interpretation to justify anything.
Thanks for your interest in our work and for taking the time to write such an extensive post. Most of your criticisms are based on assumptions about what I think, not what I actually think.
Let me know if you have any further questions after reading some of my blog posts.
Love, Morty
Hi Morty,
I watched your free video on how to eliminate 1 belief.
I have some concerns regarding the material you’re presenting – as someone who’s worked as a trainer before – I hope you won’t mind me being plain about my questions.
(1) Life inherently has no meaning. Meaning is what we attribute to it (as a product of conditioning, etc.).
(2) Beliefs and feelings are products of attribution; they have no independent existence of their own
(3) You can be a happier and healthier person if you get rid of all your limiting beliefs.
Unless I’ve misread your intent, these are some of the key ideas that the free-demo of your program revolves around. I have queries on all three points and seek clarification:
(1) Life has no inherent meaning except that which we give it – Surely this undermines every tenet of every major school of spiritual (and religious) teachings. My own views are that there is a meaning to life, but it’s not the one that people in an unconscious state believe it to be. And really, overcoming false belief attribution is one leg of the journey, but nowhere near the end. In the symbolic paradigms of energy medicine, related to concepts of Chakras in the Eastern philosophical-spiritual tradition, knowing that the ego-self is a fiction is but one step, finding who you really are (and you state this in your video but don’t adequately explore it- perhaps you do so elsewhere) and what is your individual, personal sense of truth – is really the journey we take towards greater awareness. What I think you’re talking about is cultivating a ‘detached mind’, where you are able to accept and experience all events without judgements (good/bad, etc.). This relates to the 6th, or brow chakra, also known as the ‘third eye’ of discernment. Yet your program does not discuss how to find your own internal compass, how to seek your own truth. I fear it stops at saying: There is no truth. There is no meaning. And that is not a message I would endorse in my own work.
There are far too many people living off fake ‘spiritual highs’ believing that detachment from right/wrong; good/bad is the way to be. In practice, while these persons may be highly successful in business; quite often they exhibit signs of a lack of empathy. How often have we encountered typical type-A personalities who bash their way through the world uncaring of their effects on others? I’m not saying that the people who benefit from your program lack empathy, I’m just asking how you address this point.
(2) Beliefs and feelings are products of attribution: Again, I would have to disagree. People from different backgrounds, cultures, races, ages, etc. have experienced at some point in their lives a sense of ‘universal truths’, often breaking their own (false-sense) of limiting beliefs. Such life-changing experiences can occur whether or not a person is religious, or performs spiritual practice. To say that all beliefs and feelings are products of the mind limit severely the spiritual senses inherent in all human beings.
Moreover, certain ‘beliefs’ and ‘feelings’, regardless of whether they are internal or externally induced, may actually lead you to (correctly) conclude: that (certain) Mistakes are bad (for example). I’ll use two dramatic examples to make my point. Your demo provides the tools to eradicate any belief or feelings or negativity that arise from them by positing alternative views of a situation. (I should add that you also do not address who the ‘creator’ of these views are and why you would create such views for yourself in the first place – these are addressed again, in the traditions I described above). Say – for instance – someone who has committed a violent act of murder, rape or something less severe like theft or jaywalking seeks to disassociate themselves from the natural feelings of negativity that accompany such actions (in most ‘healthy’ people).
Bear with me – I realize this is hyperbole, but it does make the point: With the tools provided in your demo, a person may well convince themselves that it is okay to commit murder. (Internal dialogue: Mistakes are bad. I shouldn’t feel bad about making this ‘mistake’. Why? Because there are other possible interpretations. E.g. ‘I did them a favour’. ‘It was self-defense (which would be valid to a certain degree in a court of law’). ‘They were weak and did not deserve to live’. ‘They were of a different race/tribe and were not human so it was okay’ Or, take rape – the rapist may well say an alternative interpretation could be: ‘She deserved it’, ‘I thought she meant yes’, ‘She’s my property and I can do whatever I want’. And so on and so forth, an aggressor may well de-legitimize a belief (or instinctive gut reaction) that says violence against another human being is wrong. (Again this is not my view, I’m saying that your demo leaves these ethical and moral questions unexplored and I hope you address them elsewhere).
Essentially my second point of objection is that there are certain universal human truths that transcend mind-based beliefs and move into the realm of instinct, or knowing. One might say that such universal beliefs and spiritual experiences are accessed throught the 7th (Crown) or 4th (Heart) Chakras.
(3) Removing your limiting beliefs makes you healthier and happier.
If life has no meaning, then ‘peace’, ‘happiness’ and even ‘health’ are empty concepts. I’ve argued above why life does appear to have some meaning that transcends the limitations of ego (which really, I think your program can do wonders for, but in conjunction with other steps).
Also as I explored in the examples of violence above, certain beliefs and feelings may be in accordance with an innate sense of morality that would be detrimental for any human being to lose. Certain experiences of beliefs and feelings — in my opinion — transcend the mind and actually signify the presence of a much grander, broader universal existence – they represent Truth. (with a capital T)
So these are my three (ultimately intersecting) critiques of the demo I saw of your program. I would be interested to know whether you address these questions elsewhere. I’m also curious as to know how it overlaps with practices in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
Regards,
BB.
i m 5 time failer in ca exam now i can,t understand what to do. plz help me …..i lose my confidence also. how can i solve my problem
My mother was critical, my father died when I was 7. I did not experience any positive support from my father. I am not even able to imagine how it would feel but i know it would make a difference. I always felt unsupported and insignificant in the eyes of others but I do feel good enough within myself. My limiting belief is about determining and fixed effect of being unfathered. That it must be so because of this. There is no positive model of masculinity and creativity, of success in life. Weak men relating to me will become even weaker, due to the absence of strong father archetype there is no support for a man. My need for this energy may depleat a man. This is my limiting belief. It is kind of psychological theory belief. I do not see any argument to the contrary. What do you think?
Hi Christina,
Your post is a good statement of a psychological theory that explains your situation.
We have a different model: All problems are caused by beliefs and conditioning and can be eliminated fully when the beliefs and conditioning are eliminated.
WHat happened in your childhood is not affecting you today. What’s running your life today are the beliefs you formed as a child, about men, about not being able to trust men, about men not being available, etc.
Love, Morty
i need your help
Morty,
What you do works!
I’m recomending your website to my clients.
Yes! You have helped me personally. I feel better physically as well being more mentally focused.
Allan
Hi Allan,
I’m thrilled that you got so much value from our work.
Thanks for recommending us to your clients.
Love, Morty
Dear Morty,
thank you so much for the brilliant demonstration of how to eliminate a belief. It was very important for me. Now I believe that I will be able to buy your complete method, one day. I don’t know when, but I surelly will…
Let me give you a digital hug :))
Morty!
Thank you so much for your work. I have purchased the natural confidence program and am in the midst of recreating my life. I love the strong new voices in my head that now say things like, “I’m important”!
The list of 19 beliefs and 4 conditionings is extensive, but I’m wishing you’d add something along the lines of “I’m not lovable.”
Thanks again for being there!
Hi EJ,
SOrry we couldn’t include all the beliefs, but we can help you get rid of specific beliefs in our private phone or Skype sessions.
ANd for the next two days we have a $100 off sale.
Let us know if you want to get rid of I’m not lovable and any others you might have.
Love,Morty
Dear Morty
I came across the free belief elimination, became convinced enough to eliminate the 19 beliefs and 4 conditionings and would like to thank you – it revolutionised my world and it was a little frightening at times as I didn’t know where the next change was coming from – now my life seems to be pointing in a much more fulfilling and constructive direction now and the delight I feel to at last say, ‘I don’t care what others think!’ and genuinely mean it is truly blissful. Bravo!
Here’s to you and your organisation’s happiness and success,
Jeff
Hi Morty,
I am working through your Natural Confidence program and have started to notice small changes in the way I think about myself and interact with other people.
I am struggling with belief # 14 ‘I’ll never get what I want.’ This belief def feels like it is true for me but I am having a hard time believing I got this belief from my interactions with my parents. Growing up, I got pretty much everything I asked for (within reason), this includes birthdays and Christmas.
The more I think about the belief “I can’t have what I want.” the more I believe it should be “I can’t have what I want on my own.” Meaning, now that I am an adult, how can I possibly get everything I want without the help of my parents?
I think I will go through the belief again but this time use “I cant have what I want on my own.”
Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks,
Jen
Hi Jennifer,
If the words of your belief are slightly different, use the words that feel real to you.
The NC program doesn’t contain all the beliefs one might have, just some common ones. If you have other ones and you are able to eliminate them on your own, that’s great. If not you can schedule sessions with us so we can help.
Have a great day.
Love, Morty
I wanted to try to get rid of a limiting belief There was nothing on the page ??
Hi Chantale,
You might have been using an iPad or iPhone. The program doesn’t support them yet. It works on regular browsers.
Sorry you are having a problem.
Love,Morty
Hi Morty,
Your method works. I feel some improvement in my feelings.
Regards,
Chetan
Hi Chetan,
ANd you will notice even more change. Try getting rid of a few beliefs and let me know what happens.
Love, Morty
Very nice. I’m not sure about the effect, but the initial statement does “feel” different. I will probably want to do the whole program. I’ll know better tomorrow, after I sleep on it.
Jim
Hi Jim,
The question is not do the words of the belief feel differently, but does the statement still feel like the truth like it did before you did the process. If you eliminated the belief, it will still be gone tomorrow.
Let me know.
Love, Mroty
The page is blank! I’m trying to read it on an iPod.
Hi Carol,
Not sure what web site you are looking it. At present you can’t do the free process on recreateyourlife.com because it is still in Flash and iPods can’t use Flash. We are in the process of switching formats so iPods will be able to access that site.
Sorry, love, Morty
Greetings,
I can’t say that my parents were particularly critical …… on the other hand, they were not encouraging either even when behaviors would have justified it.
I was physically small from grade 1 of elementary school and often I was bullied (all the way up thru senior high).
Also, my parent’s financial means were limited and the statement “we can’t afford the things other families can” created a “complex” of sorts.
On the other hand, I was a good student and usually got A’s and B’s.
I got a BA in liberal arts and got married to a fellow student upon graduating.
A subsequent failure of a business led to the eruption of these suppressed feelings …… I plunged into a deep depression and the marriage ended as a result.
I continued to stumble ahead, just managing to make ends meet.
At the age of 35, I returned to college and got a BS in pharmacy. Unfortunately, the motivation for this was to “prove” something to others …….. not a good motivation and I soon discovered after graduating that pharmacy was not for me.
Since then, I have had several opportunities to to pursue businesses and even go to medical school but in each case, I subconsciously sabotaged these opportunities (I have only recently been able to decipher my behaviors).
Now, I am telling myself it is too late to start over (I’m 62) and I beat myself up daily (even though intellectually I know that I was “unconscious” at the time).
Self-sabotaging behavior is still evident.
How might I use your program to get out of this stagnating, procrastinating loop (my confidene isn’t too good now) ?
Thanks ….. and best wishes.
Hi Morty,
I have noticed that you have stressed on the fact in the videos that almost all of our self esteem beliefs are formed by our interactions with our parents.
How would you explain in the case of two brothers who don’t have much of an age gap say 1-2 years having got the same parenting don’t succeed equally?
In other words one brother does exceedingly well while the other turns out to be a failure.
Regards,
Chetan
Unfortunately, we also received conditioning thru school, television, radio, etc and that conditioning and the cultural expectations (their demands) may conflict with our personal experiences …… plus I also believe that there may be individual predispositions due to genetics/brain differences …… ultimately beliefs make keep us from taking chances ….. achieving change.
Oh, I think I know this ! In the videos, he stresses that you are the creator of your beliefs, because you interpret the meanings of meaningless events. So, the two brothers each interpret the same meaningless events(interactions with parents) differently, and each formed different beliefs. One created beliefs that lead him to be successful. In contrast, the other brother interpreted the same interactions differently, and negatively, and formed beliefs that lead him to failure. Hope this makes sense. (:
Dear Morty,
I found your site by chance while looking on the net about self-esteem. I must admit, I was very curious. Maybe many people found what they were looking for, but it just seems I’m to complicated.
I remember most of my childhood and it was half – half. I was beaten, abused, tortured, especially psychological. If I ever asked why, which I quite often did, the answer was that I know why. After a good beat, I would receive some ice-cream and they would tell me “We’re friends again, right?”.
Anyway, enough with the details. The thing is, I wanted to be perfect and whenever I would achieve something, it was not good enough. Even now, although I repeat myself every time how wonderful and smart and beautiful I am, it doesn’t really help. It’s like a vermin eating me up inside. My mother thinks she raised me well and I’m afraid to make any reproaches.
The truth is I hate my family and I hate myself and I just wanted to vanish, not to exist anymore. Of course, now I have changed a bit, especially since I moved out… very, very far, about 9000 km away!
Many of my friends had or still have similar experiences and I don’t know how to help them.
So, my question would be how do I cope with my own vermin and how do I convince my friends that they are actually wonderful people with many achievements and do not need to listen to anyone saying otherwise. Including their parents.
I’m not looking for the perfect answer, just an opinion.
Thank you very much.
Regards,
Sandra
Is there supposed to be a lot of white space between the illustrations on the video? Because that is what I saw. Cartoon of parent and child, white space, cartoon of parent, white space….
I use a Mac; maybe it is a problem caused by crossing platforms?
LOL…and I luv your work also Morty 🙂
Luv ya work Monty 🙂 thnx
After a year of wondering and pondering I finally bought the Natural Confidence program. Normally I get nervous about spending larger amounts of money but I have to say that I didn’t even question this choice. I am ready to change.
I just eliminated the first two beliefs and I feel different, but I can’t fully describe it. It is almost like a new sense of calm or “a matter of fact” feeling has come over me. I know that ch…wait a second…I was about to say that “I know change takes time” but that is a belief waiting to be eliminated…haha.
In any case, I’m excited to work through the NC program and finally feel the way that everyone else sees me. Everyone sees me as a happy, confident and fun person…and I want to believe/know the same.
I have a ways to go, but thanks to you the journey is going to be simple and fun. Thank you! I’ll post again once I have finished the program.
Ooo…I do have one quick question. What sort of time line or plan is the best to follow? What is a reasonable number of beliefs to eliminate in a day?
Thanks again Morty!
PS: My husband and I are planning on starting a family in the fall and I’ve got Shelly’s “Parenting the Lefkoe way” http://thelefkoeway.com/ bookmarked. I’m sure that the Lefkoe method will help me raise a confident and happy child.
I just finished the complete system and can already feel changes. I look forward to making massive positive changes in my life from now on. Thanks so much for your wonderful system and I’m sharing my good news with as many people as possible!
Dear Morty,
Please excuse me for my absence but you must know that I am a good Christian Ortodox and in this week we pay great respect to Jesus so after pass-over celebation I shall contact you.
Sincerily yours,
Marin Tonciu.
Dear Morty,
This is powerful stuff, and I totally get the childhood thing, but I’m having trouble with other stuff. I am recently divorced. I discovered my ex had been spending a lot of time with porn on the computer, had been spending an enormous amount of time talking to his ex secretary on his cell phone, had opened accounts in my name that I was unaware of, and had lied to me about a lot of things. If these events had no meaning, and the meaning I attributed to them was all in my head, why did I divorce him? Should I have given them positive meaning? I don’t think so! However, I do see that they were actually positive events. They told me my marriage wasn’t what I thought it was and that I was married to THE WRONG man. Help me out here. They were hurtful and I felt rejected, unloved, and worthless. It was those feelings that caused me to divorce him and to realize that I deserve better. If, however, all men act this way, I have no need of them.
Don’t we have to attribute meaning to events in order to see that there is something better for us–that we deserve better? If there was no inherent meaning in those events, I could have decided to stay in an abusive, neglectful relationship.
Thanks for your insight,
Pam
Hi Morty,
Who would I call to learn the lefkoe method with better?
I am using the natural confidence program but I can’t tell if the belief, when I say it, produces a negative feeling and if it is actually removed later on in the videos. I want to work one on one and see the process work with a professional and then use their help to address everything in Natural Confidence Program.
Is there a specific amount of time to visualize my childhood and use a new interpretation on it before the belief gets eliminated?
Thanks a lot,
Jeff
Hi Jeff,
Thanks for your interest in our work.
If you are interested in a one-on-one session with a certified Lefkoe Method Facilitator please call us at 415-884-0552.
Love, Morty
Hello Morty, eliminating beliefs is part of my homework of the Lefkoe-Parenting-Course, so I am sitting here as a mother and a child. First things first: it works. Amazing. And I have a question. Is it true that behaviour of parents is meaningless? I have found, after studying your material, that I react in a certain way whenever I am identified with a certain belief about a situation and this always includes a meaning about myself, the child or a child’s behaviour or life. The crucial question for me is this: are our minds connected or not? Does a child really create her own beliefs or rather “download” them from their parents? I strongly feel the latter, we form these beliefs because the situations we experience HAVE meaning, they are given meaning by our parent’s, they give their meaning to a situation and we adopt it, just like we adopt other things. There is no meaningless situation in families where people hold strong beliefs about things. I mean, a parent who rather watches TV then talk to his child has a clear meaning: TV is more important than the child. I mean, theoretically of course the child still could detach from this meaning, but the adult holds ,a meaning. And if we don’t have uncle Morty around the corner giving us “alternative meanings” (thanks for doing so!) or telling us that this doesn’t mean that the child herself is unimportant, but only that for the parent TV is more important (which is painful enough), we are stuck with it.
Now, the method still works, as I can see now that I am not my beliefs and that I can create my own beliefs. But isn’t it so that in families situations ARE loaded with the parent’s meaning about children, life, behaviour etc. and the child takes it on, unless it has some other source of input that allows the child to form other meanings, or not? I absolutely can agree on anything else, but this part doesn’t go through. A child’s mind, I understood, is completely open exactly for this purpose, to download the information that exceeds instincts to learn the additional skills it needs. I think this includes “meaning” with respect to situations, as this will control our behaviour and results. If you can influence how a child feels about certain things or itself, i.e. what meaning it gives to certain events, you influence that child’s life, that is how culture is created and what education is about, or not? Am I completely off or where am I off?
And a second question: is it so that only when I hold a belief about something/give meaning to it that results in the creation of emotions, do I co-create my life, as my emotions determine how I ultimately act? So, if I don*t give meaning to things, I don’t co-create? Saying, if we want to co-create, we have to give meaning to events in life in order to create emotions that fuel our actions?
Thank you for your work, it is very, very interesting.