Since offering people the opportunity to choose exactly which problem they’d like to have solved on my website
http://www.recreateyourlife.com/store
I’ve been wondering if there was something else I could offer that would let you live the life you’ve always wanted.
To find out I thought I’d just ask you the question and have you leave your answer on my blog:
“What else would you like to change about your life?”
And you know what, it can be anything at all. Just make sure it’s something you really want to change because I’m going to take your feedback and use it to create new programs in the future.
Examples could be fear of anger or confrontation, experiencing and expressing uncontrolled anger, and specific relationship issues.
You often do get what you wish for… so think BIG.
Just leave a comment below (to remain anonymous just give your name as “anonymous.”
My cake and cookie decorating book has been completed. I’ve got the fans, friends and family who say they’ll purchase the book. In the meantime, over 200 copies (I’m down from 385 total to start with) still sit in the boxes. I’ve been out promoting the book at various events and online. I’ve stayed away from the bookstores because I wouldn’t make any money there. Sales are slow. I sent a cookie box to Wendy Williams who has a show and next week I’ll send one to Oprah. I need to get more sales. How else can I do this????
What would I like to change about myself? This insidious self sabotage that always takes over when I take on a big project or I’m anywhere close to success.
Hi Jenn,
Self-sabotage is the result of beliefs, such as I’m not worthy or deserving, I’ll never get what I want, life is difficult, etc.
Get rid of the beliefs and you’ll get rid of the self-sabotage as many others already have.
Regards, Morty
I have a deep fear of change– naturally no one wants negative change. But I mean positive change, too. As much as I want really wonderful dreams to unfold, I always get so nervous about it it almost always makes me physically unwell and I have to self-talk myself through the whole thing –it can be absolutely exhausting. I know that the fear delays things for me and also makes things much more difficult than they need to be. Im sure a lot of fears underlie this deep fear of change— I am not confident enough perhaps in my abilities. I fear the unknown, as many people do. It holds me back and wears me out…so I would love to really tackle this once and for all. I have ordered your dvd on getting rid of the belief that change is difficult and takes a long time, so perhaps that will help too
Hi Chris,
Usually issues such as the one you described are caused by a number of beliefs, not just one or two.
I think that if you got the entire Natural Confidence course you would see a profound difference in your experience of life and of change.
There is a sale going on for the next couple of days.
Here’s the deal:
Until 11:59 p.m. Pacific Time on Thursday, May 6th,
you can try the entire digital version of the Natural Confidence
system for $1 for 14 days.
http://recreateyourlife.com/store/natural-confidence-1dollar.php
This means you’ll have two full weeks to try the
Natural Confidence program, eliminate all 19 beliefs
and 4 conditioned emotions and see real, tangible
results in your life… before you pay the remaining
3 payments of $75.
Let me know what you think.
Regards, Morty
Monty
This is probably not the right place to share this but I am loving your stuff and had some questions about it. Mainly if when you bought a belief buster could you download it from a link rather than have the cd shipped as I live in Spain and didn’t want to have to pay the shipping costs. It would be easier if you could just provide a link and hey presto the product is downloadable. However I must say that I still have nor received a reply and it’s well over your 24 hr reply promise. I like what you are doing and would love to try more stuff but I am afraid your back office is not delivering.
Hi Mark,
We actually do offer a streaming video for our Natural Confidence course. Unfortunately technical problems make it impossible for us to offer individual beliefs that way.
I’ve sent your note to the people handling support tickets and asked them to respond right way.
Sorry for the delay.
Regards, Morty
Rencently I have gone through a hard time,especially my academic studies.I kind of don’t known how to get myself an aim,and preserverance to do the things I think is right and will help my study.
THANK you for your cencens to people.
Hi Jaisy,
The Passion Test is a good book by some friends of mine on finding what you are really passionate about.
And if you have any beliefs in the way (I’ll never get what I want, Life is difficult, etc.) make sure you get them handled too.
Regards, Morty
Thanks for asking Morty.
After having gone through massive makeover and repairing many of the problems fellow commenters mention here, my big wish is to find an ethical way to take it easy. I would like to provide valuable service to others in life makeover and well-being areas, but in an enjoyable and comfortably sustainable way. Universe, please make it so. Thank you.
Hi Kamil,
I don’t have any sure-fire answers for this one. My own approach is to do what I am passionate about, look for ways to make a profound difference in people’s lives every day, and see if I can get some of those people to pay me so I earn enough money for my family.
Certainly getting any limiting beliefs out of the way will help. I’m still doing that from time to time, but I’ve worked on hundreds by now.
Regards, Morty
Hi Morty!
Lately I feel a bit stuck. I’m following an education which I don’t like, but have to finish (moneywise) and my social life is in a complete rut. I’ve been putting of things now for so long, that it seems to get harder to pull myself together and start doing something with my life. Mainly I would like to get rid of my social anxiety or lack of social confidence, I believe this is what’s holding me back most of the time.
Furthermore I would like to say that I think it’s great that you are helping people from all over the world. Keep up the good work!
Regards
Not having the ability to fully speak up for myself and “making do” in a lot of situations. (took care of my parents 24/7 for 6 years , financially in a mess because of this and with a husband who has been in and out of work for the 20 years we have been married, still trying to do it all, trying to prove myself…I’m 58 now and I want to become “me” for perhaps the first time in my life…
Hi Tina,
The best way I know to become “me” is to get rid of the beliefs that get in the way. Our beliefs limit our options; eliminating our beliefs gives us freedom.
How did you feel when you eliminated a few of the free beliefs? Did you notice any difference?
Regards, Morty
To be able to take the actions that I know are the right ones at the precise right time, instead of waiting for the pain to get greater before taking action.
Hi Randy,
It sounds as if the problem is really procrastination. Putting off what you know you should do until you absolutely have to do it.
That is relatively easy to get rid of when you eliminate the beliefs and conditionings that create it.
Check this out: http://recreateyourlife.com/store/procrastination-ed.php
If you have any more questions, please let me know.
Regards, Morty
Hi Morty.
I am a Roulette player and i win a lot of money from the game. But what i would like to change is to stop giving the money back to the casino.
Cheers
Hi Tom,
Gambling (and the inability to stop when you’re ahead–or too far in the hole)is an addiction and can be stopped by eliminating the beliefs that cause it.
Regards, Morty
Hi Morty,
I ‘d like to eliminate all fears but fear of conflict. I run when there is a conflict between myself and others.
Thanks for all of your help with all that you do.
Hi Christie,
Sorry that we don’t have an online program for fear of conflict. It is only a few beliefs and we can help you eliminate them in one or at most two private phone sessions.
Hopefully some day we will create a program for this common problem.
Thanks for posting.
Regards, Morty
HOW TO GET OVER LONINESS AND STOP PEOPLE FROM HATING ME.
Hi Paulette,
Although there are some additional specific beliefs that cause loneliness and difficult relationships with people, most of the beliefs that cause these two problems are available on our Natural Confidence program.
For more information about it please go to http://recreateyourlife.com/store/natural-confidence.php.
Thanks for taking the time to write.
Regards, Morty
i would like to come to terms and understand why my city (adelaide,south australia)would use microwave mind control on me .How do i ignore the mocking ,abuse,vandalism,crap service,lies,vivid dumb dreams,sleep deprivation,petty thieving,hostility,zapping of the brain,piercing sound in ears,etc,etc,etc. This is no joke!
HOW can we get my normal old life back.(this has been going on for 17 years )
Hi Tyrone,
I can help you, but I cannot change the behavior of others. Sorry.
Regards, Morty
I have become a very negative person in the last few years.I want to become a positive thinker.
Hi Anshu,
Thanks for letting me know what you would like to change in our life.
Most of your negativity could be eliminated by getting rid of the 19 beliefs and four conditionings on our Natural Confidence program. For more information please visit http://recreateyourlife.com/store/natural-confidence.php
Regards, Morty
Hello Morty,
Thanks a lot for your courses and your help.
I do not know if it has anything to do with the beliefs but I would like some help in defining what do I really want, what I am here for, etc.
Hi Oxana,
One approach to find our what you want to do with your life that I think is very good was created by two friends of mine and is available in a book, The Passion Test, by Chris and Janet Attwood.
After you figure it out and find some barriers in the way of moving forward, then we can figure out what beliefs you need to eradicate.
Let me know how you like the book.
Regards, Morty
I am wondering if your method works when you want to add a belief as well as it works when you want to eliminate a belief ….. and how you would you go about it
Hi Basic,
I wrote a blog post recently on why you don’t need to create a new belief after eliminate an old belief. Go to http://mortylefkoe.com/ 010510.
If you still have questions, let me know.
Regards, Morty
My issues are around belonging. I never feel I belong anywhere. I feel like I am from outer space. Like today – in a professional meeting – and they begin to talk about television shows and sports. I don’t watch either – I am pursuing an advanced degree and am a big time organic gardener. I tried steer the conversation back to the professional topic – and was ignored in view of the latest rave about american idol.
I am much older and have a broader skill base than everyone at work. My kids are grown and theirs are small. I am liberal in a red state and desire to move somewhere where there is more conscious raising activities but fear I won’t fit in there either. I would like to be around people who have interesting things to say and impact real life.
I really don’t mind being different intellectually but emotionally it hurts to be excluded and not have my differences be a source of interesting conversation.
Hi Rox,
There are two issues involved in your desire to fit in.
One is practical in that some places are more conducive to finding people with similar interests. I moved for that very reason from Connecticut to the San Francisco Bay Area almost 8 years ago and have found many more people here who are interested in transformation and personal growth.
The second issue is your beliefs about yourself and life. If you believe I don’t belong, I don’t fit in, No one is interested in what I’m interested in (a belief I had many years ago), etc., then you will feel excluded no matter where you live.
So handle the beliefs first and that should help. And if you are still lonely, go someplace where more people are interested in what you’re interested in.
Regards, Morty
I have problems with feeling “no one truely loves me” so I’m guessing I have a problem with loving myself: although consciously I do feel lovable and that I deserve love. But I don’t trust others to see it or to mean it if they say it. I always find evidence that they don’t. So I guess trust is also a big issue here. I also suffer from procrastination, but my mind is always computing “Pi” so it may be that I am Psychically exhausted- I need to calm my mind so I can focus my creative energies.
Thank You So Much,
Renee
Hi Renee,
Thanks for writing.
Unfortunately, I’m not lovable is not on any of our online or DVD programs, but we do have a program specifically designed to get rid of procrastination.
Go to http://recreateyourlife.com/store/procrastination-ed.php.
If you have any additional questions, please let me know.
Regards, Morty
The two excuses that often occur in my mind are limited time and money. If you could tag some specific beliefs that feed those excuses, it would be a big help. Also, I’ve had the bad habit of blaming authority figures for my problems–I hate to admit it. I always catch myself at some point and remind myself that I am responsible for me, but If there is some belief feeding this, I’d be nice to do away with it. The Lefkoe Method may not be some cure all, but I believe that its the truth that sets one free, and the Lefkoe Method seems to take a very rational and systematic approach to exposing falshood, and eliminating it.
One other thing I might add, a discipline I’ve learned to practice, and am still learning, and that is the art of forgiveness. Unforgiveness can be just as crippling as false beliefs.
Thanks Morty
Hi Steve,
Yes, The Lefkoe Method isn’t the only thing that can make a difference in our lives, but it can help a lot.
I found that forgiveness became much easier as I eliminated more and more beliefs. It didn’t matter what they were. As I realized that all of my behavior is the result of beliefs, and most of those beliefs were formed in childhood when I had little choice about the beliefs I was forming, I realized the same was true of everyone else.
We are all run by our beliefs. In that sense we are like a programmed machine. Would you find it difficult to forgive a machine that was programmed to harm you or our possessions — or would you even get angry at it to begin with? We assume free will when we get angry at people’s behavior. If it comes from beliefs, then just view them like a machine and see if that helps.
Blaming people in authority, time, and money for what you don’t have and want is the result of a bunch of beliefs, all of which could be easily eliminated.
If you have specific questions about how to do that, call us at 415-884-0552.
Regards, Morty
Dear Morty,
Thanks for asking me this question. It gives me the possibility to explore further the keeping me from the change topics I d love to work out.
I have a special belief, at least for me, which creates a lot of problems with my everyday duties. And its : I just dont want to remeber! That would say :
I d love to stop trying to forget! Things, information, situations, words experienced like not nice to me make me not willing to let them come to me and very consciously I just try to forget. How could I see the possitive meaning of emotionaly not pleasant experience and rather use it to make my memory open for at least selectively and possitively arranging my thoughts so that my confidence of understanding each situation I am in can bring me peace an joy of having it clearly placed in my mind. So that tomorrow I dont have to question myself again: What was that about? I dont know if you could understand me – I d love to have an instant waking up moment that remembers me rather to use the situation to make myself clear in a joyful way that what I get from the surrounding world is not me and I have to stay better open for the information than to close me from it.
Excuses for the not perfect english! I’d appriciate any corections!
Hi,
I suspect that your “poor memory” is the result, as you say, of not wanting to remember. And that is the result of beliefs. If you believe you are powerless to do anything about your life, or that you don’t deserve to have a better life, or that nothing you do will be good enough, etc. — then you will not want to face difficulties in your life.
Thanks for writing.
Regards, Morty
Here are some thoughts for new programs:
Dressing, clothes…never wore anything right
Smoking / drinking self destructive behavior
Body image not right
I was a bad parent
Eating disorders
Bless you for the work you are doing. This program works!
Hi Marie,
Some of your thoughts for new programs are problems people face today (such as self-destructive behavior and eating disorders), some a specific beliefs (such as I was a bad parent), and some are the source of beliefs (never wore anything right earlier in life).
We can help people with eating disorders but it is very complicated and has to be done in one-on-one phone sessions.
Happy to hear that our work is useful to you.
Regards, Morty
I’d like more faith…in myself and in God’s love for me. I’d like to believe that I already have everything I need for a beautiful life. I can think of nothing that this faith could not create for me.
Thank you for asking the question; becoming clear enough to answer is a blessing!
Hi Kat,
A lack of faith in yourself usually is a sign of low self-esteem, which is a sign of a lot of negative beliefs.
If you want to get rid of them, the program with the best selection of negative self-esteem beliefs is http://recreateyourlife.com/store/natural-confidence.php
I had a negative sense of myself for most of my life. I was unhappy being me. I always wanted to be someone else. After eliminating all my negative self-esteem beliefs I am now happy being me and I have a very positive sense of myself.
Regards, Morty
Sir: I have lacked self-confidence for years. As thoughts are things I have tried to visualize, but seem to fail each time as doubts come in destroying what I want. My prayers seem to be answered at times. I would like to know how to consentrate more fully to acquire what I need. I know we each have a purpose in this life and I have asked again and again for that purpose to be shown to me with no results. What are your thoughts on this. Thank you. Joan
Hi Joan,
A lack of confidence is one of the most common problems clients bring to us, which is why we created a DVD that is so effective that it has a lifetime guarantee to eliminate low self-confidence.
To get more information about it please go to http://recreateyourlife.com/store/natural-confidence.php.
If you have any additional questions, please let me know.
Regards, Morty
Hello, it would be wonderful to see:
Eating healthy…chose the right foods for you
Take time for prayer/mediation/gratitude
The world is not a bad place
Feeling safe and supported
My body and mind is well, healthy and whole
I can’t give love … I can’t receive love
Your program is remarkable. I have a sense of peace about me that I never knew possible. Keep up the great work!
Hi Sharon,
Congratulations on the positive change in your life.
The other issues you mention are the result of specific beliefs that can be eliminated in phone one-on-one sessions. If you have questions about them, please call us at 415-884-0552.
Regards, Morty
Dear Morty,
There are several things I would really like to change:
Panic when having to do public speaking – I would like to fascinate people.
Feeling like a little dumb child when speaking in public, feeling hurt and not worthy to speak to people.
Not feeling part of groups, be it in further education, hobbies….
Feeling overwhelmed of the work I have to do, not being able to find the big picture and gaining a clear focus (perhaps I have too much going).
Not being able to get a clear vision of a nice house with nice furniture and garden and a georgious view…and taking action.
I would like to enjoy life at a very high level.
I would like to be able to relate to people on a comfortable level and not feel smaller and far less important, interesting or competent than all the others.
I would like to contribute and offer my contribution without the fear of redicule, rejection, doubt of whether it is needed or whether I can do it.
I would like to be rid of the constant nagging feeling that I am not worthy. It is like an enduring inner panic. It’s always there, in each and every situation, like a blow to my chest, like a burning in my heart.
Hi,
Thanks for writing.
You’ve listed a lot of issues you would like to resolve and most of them are the result of the same 19 beliefs and 4 conditionings in our Natural Confidence program.
Take a look at this program and the specific beliefs it will help you eliminate and see if you think this will help. I think it will. http://recreateyourlife.com/store/natural-confidence.php
Regards, Morty
There are several issues I would love resolved.
A failed grad school attempt left me with massive amounts of debt, jobless with no hopes of getting my dream job, and having to move back in with my parents. I’m 42 years old. The anger, shame, and guilt I have is overwhelming, not to mention the hopelessness about the future.
I battled very severe depression and anxiety since day 1 of grad school. It was 3 years of pure hell until I failed. For lack of any better explanation, my spirit was taken from me by my adviser and I couldn’t recover. My spirit was calling me to do something that would allow me to grow to the next level so I could be ready to do what I was meant to do when I graduated. Without it, I was completely lost. Four years later, I’m still struggling without it, and without any clue of what to do with my life.
There are many issues in there. I wouldn’t mind having any of them solved so I could at least make some progress towards living life again.
Hi Kevin,
You’re right,there are a lot of issues there.
Our Natural Confidence program would certainly help, but depression is too complicated at this point to be able to put it on a DVD.
We certainly could help you in phone one-on-one sessions. If you’d like more information about this, please call us at 415-884-0552.
Thanks for taking the time to write.
Regards, Morty
How to experience joy!
Hi Riel,
Thanks for taking the time to write.
In my personal experience and based on what literally thousands of people have told me, joy comes from pursuing your passion with no beliefs or conditionings in the way. Knowing you are the creator of your life and being free to pursue your passion brings true joy.
If you haven’t eliminated your most crippling self-esteem beliefs yet, think about how that would feel.
Regards, Morty
Hi Morty, I have seen some positive changes in my life in using your methods. I would like to receive help in socializing and making friends. I am petite and feel overlooked by people and life in general. I need help in being noticed and viewed in a positive way and not talked down to like a child because I’m a little taller than one.
Hi Carmen,
What programs have you used so far?
The Natural Confidence program will give you a lot more confidence in socializing. However, none of the programs have relationship beliefs or beliefs about being small or not noticed. If you have any beliefs like that, you might want to have a private one-on-one phone sessions.
We could help you handle such beliefs that way. If you have any specific questions about our phone sessions, please call us at 415-884-0552.
Regards, Morty
Thank you for the Natural Confidence Course, I am experiencing significantly positive changes in my life after doing it. I would like to eliminate limiting beliefs centered around jealousy, not being able to take a day off (over-achiever syndrome), interruptions/being cut off in traffic/walking, frustration when I think I am misunderstood or not listened to. Cheers!
Hi Bodhi,
Some of the problems you name should be handled by the Natural Confidence course. The others could easily be handled in one-on-one sessions if you’d like.
Regards, Morty
Hi Morty, with your help I have improved my life a lot. I have more fun, friendship and good times. I can see a way to stay on this upward trend and I really want to. Do you have a program that will help me stay committed to this? Thanks again.
Hi Leila,
You don’t need a program “to help stay committed.”
Once you eliminate all the relevant beliefs that cause a specific problem, the beliefs and the problem won’t come back. So there is no “commitment” necessary.
I’m not sure what programs you have used. If you haven’t tried our Natural Confidence program, that will put you on an “upward trend” and keep you there. You can find it at http://recreateyourlife.com/store/natural-confidence.php
Regards, Morty
I want friendship & being a friend to mean the world.
Hi Morty,
I have completed Natural Confidence and can highly recommend it to anyone – it’s been very helpful for me in moving forward on many personal and business projects, and helping me have a general ease about my presence. I am now doing some phone sessions with Shelley on relationship issues.
So here’s the area I hope you can do for your next product – Relationships!! e.g. how to communicate and ask for your wants and needs in relationship, how to remove barriers to believing you can have a wonderful relationship, communicate clearly with your partner about needs and wants, and better listen to them from a non-judgmental place. Beliefs like: I can’t get what I want. I don’t know what I want. I can’t ask for what I want or need. Wanting is bad. I don’t deserve to be loved. Relationships don’t work. My partner is responsible for my feelings. relationships are hard, etc.
thanks!
John
I have a fear that what I say could hurt people or alienate them, so I only say what is perfectly 100% right with the current situation, or nothing at all. I have trouble with conversation in general, as I was never properly socialized in conversational frameworks. I try to read 15 books at a time, and I never feel like I have the time to sit down and read a book. Yet I spend hours surfing the internet. I have problems getting close to people and once I do I become somebody totally different and then they end up not liking me.
@: Hi Angela,
We can help people with eating/weight issues (see my blog post http://www.mortylefkoe.com/101309/) but we can’t (at least at present) put it in an on-line package because each individual is so different.
We do work with people with eating/weight issue in private telephone (or Skype) sessions. If you’d like more information, please call us at 415-884-0552.
Regards, Morty
I really wish you guys would come out with a weight loss package. I used to Natural confidence and that did take care of a lot of issues I had with dealing with people. Alternately, I’d like one that would help me keep my house clean. : )
@: Hi Harold,
I’ve been where you are and I know how difficult it can be. I’ve felt suicidal and gone into bankruptcy. I’m sorry to hear about your situation and I know from personal experience that it can be changed.
I totally transformed my life when I changed all my beliefs. I haven’t been depressed for years.
At least eliminate the three free beliefs on our web site, http://recreateyourlife.com. And if you are able to get the Natural Confidence course, that will get rid of most of the important negative self-esteem beliefs.
You can change your circumstances and feelings, I promise.
Regards, Morty
Hi Morty, I’m having a rough time with my life right now. I’ve isolated myself because my results with people are not what I prefer. I was fired from my job because I lost control of my mouth with my boss. That was 2 weeks ago. I have just barricaded myself in the house, all my bills are behind, I’m even suicidal. I’ve been pursuing the law of attraction and many different teachers for the last 3 years but I have not achieved any significant breakthroughs. I’ve spent lots of money online for business ops and LOA classes. I never meet any people who pursue this stuff like I do or who use it like I want to. I just feel hopeless and I want things in my life to be different. Thanks for listening.
Harold
Hi Harold, I just wanted to say that you are not alone in this. I could have written 95% of your note about myself too. Sending you a hug. I understand.
Hi Morty,
My biggest set of limiting beliefs deal with money. “I don’t deserve money,” “I’ll never have enough money,” “Wealthy people are dishonest,” “Poverty is a virtue,” you know NONSENSE like that. There are plenty more, and I might have them all. So please look into this topic for your next video series. I have your Natural Confidence streaming video, and all I can say is Brilliant!!! All the best.
Jeff
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Hi Kristiano,
Thanks for your interest in our work and for your post.
We have a program that we guarantee will eliminate your procrastination. You just need to overcome your procrastination long enough to read about it and then purchase it. Here is where you can find out more about it: http://recreateyourlife.com/store/procrastination-ed.php
If you have any questions after visiting that site, please let me know.
Regards, Morty
1).Self Trust
2).Eliminating negative based survival skills – intergrating empowering survival skills. Example: negative survival skill – manipulation ,
3) Forgiveness of self and others – releasing blame – shame – guilt ect…….
I have experience extreme procrastination, I never wait a second to do a job or to go to work, anything that my mind think is required I go fort and do so..But when it is time for me to work on inspiration mode on something that really count, like the novel I’m writing or business plan…it takes forever and it is really frustrative..I could give any reason, and I did, but now, I have to act. I want to get rid of this procrastinating problem, so I can put energy on acting instead of fighting procrastination….what the hell!!
Feeling vulnerable and threatened by the world and other people, seeing self as weak and helpless – so essentially Learned Helplessness caused by an abusive childhood.
“I always lose when taking risks”
i worry too much, about everything, about the future. i always have the ‘what if……,’. i worry so much that i can at times have a dream about that particular issue bothering me. i am not sure whether i worry too much or i take things too seriously. it is such a burden.
I have control issues,(I am ) very un organized,to the point where I get very frustrated, and start having anger issues ,my family has been telling me about my controlling ways for years so I am trying to work on it .ps I need my user name and pass word mailed to me I can not get onto your website thanks…….Sat.,02/06/2010
I would like to stop procarstinating and worrying about ny academic coursework for my Psychology degree..
I would like to get out of a negative and psychologically abusive relationship.
I fear criticism and here I am under constant criticism. As soon as I want to leave I get pulled back in by his story. Why can’t I make this move. Mainly it has to do with money. I feel completely depleted.
I have a disabiity others do not understand and I would like to stop being concerned about other people’s judgement of me.